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The second reason is I am desperate to recommend the exact right book for the requestor so that they will like the book and by extension like me.

-me. this is me. the whole paragraph is me. as an overthinker and occasional people pleaser, I can relate.

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People pleasers unite!!! And get nothing done or decided 😂

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HAHAH I relate to this so hard. When I can think and write and process, I'll have book recommendations until I die. But when someone asks me on the spot I'm like, books? Never heard of them.

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Books? Cant be me!

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Also I DNF'ed Goon Squad. Idk, it wasn't my style!!

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Maybe it isn't such a safe rec then!!! haha. Iike I said, i love weird stuff :)

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I do too! Which is why I had to write an entire post about my specific taste, because people try to read what I loved and their like, you’re weird!

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!!! Love a multi-recommendation post, and truly connect with the neurotic identity attachment to book recs lol. Gotta tailor the rec to the requester!!

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neurotic is a great descriptor of the experience!! you absolutely have to otherwise my future as a book recommender is on the line lol

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If I’m asked for vague book recs, I always have to ask more questions. Do you want an easy read where you probably won’t have to look up words or do you like learning new vocabulary? Etc etc I usually just avoid book recs altogether unless it’s sharing an opinion on a specific book.

Sooo…are you going to read Nuclear War by Annie Jacobsen? I DO NOT need to add to my existential dread but I’m feeling a bit masochistic 😬

Obsessed with the kitties 😍

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Excellent follow up questions! I did that with my friend and realized I don't actually read much of what she was looking for because I found them unsatisfying so I had reach far back (hence inspo for this post!).

I am 100% going to read it. Jordy at Jordy's book Club said it was hands down the scariest thing he's ever read and I am ready. I am not secretly obsessed with world ending stories so why not add to the existential dread! Also looking at Wanderers by Chuck Wendig to throw on top of it :D

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I started it last night before bed and it is indeed scary AF. Ouuuuu going to look up Wanderers now!

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I am also enjoying James—there is a great piece in Slate on Everett and Colson Whitehead. Recommendations on the fly: Cloud Atlas and Sea of Tranquility. Also, jumping back to the Atlantic’s great American novels, would add Stoner by John Williams, great overlooked novel and writer.

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Cloud atlas and sea of tranquility are two of my very favorites! I need to read Stoner and your other rec Bolanos. I purchased three of his books on thrift store finds and now just need to read at least one :)

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Books… don’t know her. Hahaha. Here’s my trick if put on the spot: I will dig IN to that person’s taste like it’s my job, then say: I’ll text you some recs when I get home. Maybe it’s unsatisfactory but at least I learn something and buy some time! I’m so glad you did not let James intimidate. I’m getting into the wind down now and look forward to your thoughts.

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Thanks for the shout out! 😎

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Love your Substack so much you are welcome ☺️

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This was another reminder that I still need to read Cloud Cuckoo Land which is ON MY SHELF. I’ve also actually never been recommended A Visit from the Goon Squad so consider me intrigued! This was a good cover all bases list. Maybe I’ll maybe my own!

And I can’t wait for what you think of James! It’s had so much commentary but not a lot from people w book opinions I trust yet (you).

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I am trying so hard not to read too many reviews so I can form my own opinion! And I would love to see your version of your go-to recommendations, my TBR from you is so long it might help me prioritize them lol

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It’s so hard to avoid reviews so you can form your own opinion!! You can do it - I believe in you! Hahaha omg okay maybe I will go a version of my go to recommendations to help prioritise! Feeling inspired I’ll get my serious book thinking cap on 😎

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